Father of a 23-24-year-old boy was disturbed. “Madam, he doesn’t do anything. Just sits there. Doesn’t speak. What’s bothering him? Will he ever get his life on track? Seems scared.” The father explained. “I am ready to do anything, but he needs to make an effort. He needs to stay active. I own a laundry. He never comes there. He didn’t finish school after the 10th grade. There is a girl in between whom he got engaged after convincing us. He speaks to her. He doesn’t speak a word to me. I don’t know what to do; I don’t understand.”
After the father spoke so much, the boy spoke. He came in with the strong scent of perfume. He said, “I don’t want anything, no goals, no dreams. Because I don’t feel the need. I only check Insta all day. Then he asked me ‘why Should I go to the shop? There are people working there. My elder brother sees everything. We have three houses, cars, everything is mine and my brother’s. Now I’m getting married, and my wife will earn. We (meaning his father) will start a business for her. Whether I work or not doesn’t make a difference. I can ask Dad for everything and got it all.”
There are many like him. They ruin the strength they have at the age of 23-24 years. The pressure overwhelms them. It makes making them reluctant to work. After all what he can do, He only demands.
A girl’s ambition is such that she wanted to become a doctor. For this, she got only 40% in the 12th grade, and 50% for NEET. Now, with such marks, will she get admission? Was it destiny that got her this far? The girl never looked at books throughout the year. Her parents were worried, they wanted to make their daughter happy. What kind of dedication is this?
A 12-13-year-old boy had to be scolded by the mother for getting ready for school on time. Why? Because the mother did not take out clothes, did not take out the notebook on time. And the mother has to rush to take care of him. But the mother never says, ‘no, I am not going to do this’ or ‘Do it on your own’ or anything like that.
There are many such stories. Everywhere, it is known what the mother and father do for their children and what the children think of it. Mothers and fathers are ready to do anything for their children, and the children feel it is their right. The parents feel that now that they have given so much, the child will remain happy, he would achieve much more. However, it doesn’t happen. The child’s demands never end.
I remember the story of the giving tree. The little boy used to play under the tree. The tree used to like him too. The boy got older and slowly stop visiting the tree. Once he visited again. He was disappointed; he needed money. The tree told him, “I will give you my apples, sell them and get money.” The boy was happy. Accordingly, he sold apples, got money. Then he didn’t come for days. When he came back, he was disappointed again. Now he wanted to build house. The tree gave him branches. Such was the wish of the tree, to give everything to the boy and make him happy. So the tree gave and gave and gave; but that didn’t satisfy the boy.
This is the story of the tree that constantly gives. Many parents play this tree’s role. They go on giving everything to their children. whatever they got they give it, what they didn’t get that too they want to give. Parents work hard for their children, even though the children are adults. They don’t want them to be sad. The thoughts are really nice; but do the children realize this?
Just think, Don’t we need to stop somewhere?
